The Male Gaze

By: Ellie Graham

I’m undecided on how I should go about describing the male gaze. Formally, it is defined as a male’s objectification of women based upon their view. However, I, along with every other woman I’ve ever met, have experienced the male gaze to an intensely personal extent, one that has become a subconscious consideration.

From a woman’s point of view, the male gaze is yet another facet of the patriarchy that dictates how we live. The only difference is this phenomenon is not explicit in the slightest bit. It manifests itself as we are brought up. From a young age, we are told how to act like a lady, and encouraged to desire a relationship. 

Imagine a man is following you to every part of your life, evaluating every move you make, every decision you make based on your appearance, how you hold yourself. That is what women constantly feel, and the male gaze sums it up perfectly. To a certain extent, it can be difficult to decipher what is done for enjoyment and what is done for the approval of a man, it makes women second guess their movements and entire being. 

Assuringly, the male gaze can be destroyed. Unfortunately, this decision lies in the hands of all men. So in a way, it truly may never be rid of. But to the men who are reading this, who value women’s feelings and existence: you can make a difference in the confidence of all the women in your life. Value their metaphysical attributes, praise the things that cannot be seen. Tell other men to stop objectifying sisters and friends. But more importantly, to women: grasp your power. Never let anyone take it away. Women’s History Month is not just about acknowledging the accomplishments that women have already come up with, but also galvanizing women into doing extraordinary things. The male gaze limits us from so many things, so let’s take back our power.